Whether you're currently in relationship, good.. bad.. or once were... something here might be applicable to you..
All these years, you've been trying to rebuild a so called "Beautiful Love Story"... "Enchanting!!" "Magical!!" yada yada yada. Unfortunately, looking at each and every angle, it's obviously failing. Stubborn as you are, you find ways.. patch things up.. Voila! it appears to be good again.. on and on that cycle goes. How many times have you devoured your pride just to avoid a fight?? How much more tears will you shed before accepting the fact that you have fooled yourself enough? When will you realize, that aside from your other half, you are human too and can get badly wounded in the process. This is insanity, don't you think? "Doing the exact same thing over and over expecting a different result.." If you know, in your heart, that you've done your part, as religiously as it can possibly be, let go. Life is too wonderful and too short to be wasted in a preposterous union. I couldn't agree more that "Love is giving without expecting anything in return". But isn't love more amazing and real if it is mutual? In a relationship, when one stops to care and ceases to complement the other, everything starts to fall apart. By all means, you have every right to save it, but if you are the only one left fighting..you should know that it's time...
So you want another chance?(You just can't get enough, can you?) You want to push your luck? You want to figure out what you've done wrong? Let me ask you this, what more can you possibly do differently when you've already given your all? You've given the whole yard instead of half. You got your heart broken one to many times. You went through hell and back. If you could only sell your soul, I bet you already did! Do you think you deserve this? You might be the perfect partner and the best in everything, but you cannot make someone love back you once they decided to stop. You can't ask them to stay when all they wanted is to go. They don't want to be with you anymore, that simple. Spare your self from a greater damage. You see, while you are too busy trying to break-in to that fully sealed window of your failed relationship, you might be missing a door widely open waiting for you, a door to your real happiness.
It is true, we are in a relationship because we want to love and be loved (most cases). One other common reason is, we are afraid to be alone, so we seek refuge from another individual. Whatever the case maybe, the moment we enter into this stage in life, we have to maintain the balance. No matter how crazily in love we are, we shouldn't let ourselves be confined behind the shadow of the other person, or be bossed around to the extent of losing our identity. When we decide to invest all that we have in a relationship, we should always make sure that the price is all worth it. Not that we are expecting things to be reciprocated, but what's the point of being into it if we can't enjoy the benefit? Really and truly I do believe there's nothing wrong in giving everything we have, it's our choice. However, leaving nothing to ourselves is not right either. Besides, once our partner leaves us, we have no one other than ourselves. Always remember, we are our only ally. Lucky to those who can stand the test of time, that, I can say is true love crafted and molded by two souls bound to be together for the rest of their lives.
NOW MOVE ON.. Don't be afraid to give up your comfort zone(your "safety net" as per my partner in crime). Easier said than done eh? Well if you start learning to love yourself more and to think of the "me" first before others, you'll realize that it isn't that hard. Learn to say no once in a while when you think its appropriate. Don't try to please everyone because you never can. You were never born to live up to anyone's expectations. Most importantly, you don't need anyone's approval, do whatever you think is right, and if it turns out the other way around, then stand on your ground.That's your decision, that's your life. Find happiness, not from someone else, find it in you. You are a wonderful creation, appreciate the beauty and power you possess. Be contented of what you have and drop the unnecessary baggage you are carrying. If you feel your other half is just another heavy load dragging you down and taking up space in your life, or worse wasting your time, let him/her go.. Be free! When it's due, new love will find its way home to you.
